There is a side of Japan which cannot be found from reading books or visiting the country for a short vacation.  The homestay program is an unusual opportunity to live with a Japanese family.  In doing so, the foreign teacher is immersed into the heart of Japan - the real thing.  I eat sukiyaki and sushi, sleep on a bamboo mat and futon, and study hiragana.  Not only can this be intriguing from a cultural point of view, but a challenge from a practical point of view.

When I first arrived in Japan, it seemed I had to learn everything again, as if for the first time.  I couldn’t assume or take for granted anything.   However, when I arrived at the Kimuras, I found my name on the mailbox and three faces smiling in the doorway.  It is these people, my “big sister, my brother-in-law and little sister,” that I share my life with.  It is wonderful to watch food being prepared and served as we discuss the days events.  The homestay families are excellent resources, both in terms of cultural explainers, as well as practical survival tips.  How and when are major holidays celebrated?  How do I use the telephone?  Where do I find a doctor?  Without such explanations, daily tasks could become a chore.

I am lucky in that my big sister speaks English quite well.  We are currently communicating in English, but are starting to speak some Japanese.  My little sister has also become my Japanese teacher.  I grew up with two brothers, so it is a special treat to spend time with this adorable five year old.  To her many things are a source of celebration, it is a real privilege to be included in these family events, as this is something I miss about my own home.

As with any family, there are some inherent responsibilities.  Initially, it was difficult to discover what my responsibilities were.  Where can I help out - dishes, cooking, tidying?  When is it best to do laundry?  What food can I put in my lunch box?  It takes time to get to know the house routines and patterns.

I find my family very accommodating.  In fact, sometimes, they go too far above what is asked, it’s a little embarrassing.  With a shortage of space and privacy, it is difficult to have an extra body in the house for all concerned.  Often it’s the little things that cause the biggest problems.  To be open, honest, and aware of potential difficulties (dates, telephone use, or times for arriving home at night) seems to be the best way of ensuring a successful homestay experience.

Prior to my arrival in Japan, there was some doubt as to whether a homestay family could be found.  With the astronomical prices in Japan and the complexities of living here I am thankful to live with my family.  I highly recommend it for anyone considering teaching in Japan.

Written by Leslie Anne Roach